When your child ask you to play with them, cuddle them, or watch them and you are busy, say to them “For a minute” rather than “In a minute.” All they need is a moment of your time. You can stop what you are doing and enjoy them for 60 seconds. That is usually all they need, and then you can get back to your other tasks. Obviously there is quality and quantity of time that is necessary, but in general, when a child is asking you during a time that is not important (when you are on your phone browsing, on the computer, watching TV, etc) then you must show your child that they are more important than silly distractions. If you say “In a minute” and then 5 minutes go by or more, you have just shown your child that it is OK to lie. They understand at an early age what a minute is. When you pass the promised one minute, you are lying to them. They will internalize that and you are effectively setting your child up to become a lier, too! Be a promise keeper my friend! For a minute, not in a minute.
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Jen O’Sullivan is a Board Certified Doctor of Naturopathy and Licensed Ecclesiastical Holistic Practitioner. She works with her clients from a holistic perspective focusing on the foundations of health and wellness both spiritually and physically. Jen is one of the most trusted, credible, and reliable educators in the complimentary and alternative medicine field because she is known for her helpful, logical, and efficacious solutions that are distilled from deep research on many topics. She is the author of over 50 books, with nine being Amazon best-sellers, on topics such as natural health, biblical studies, devotionals, and doctrine. Jen has been a professional educator and international conference speaker since 1999. She has a desire to help educate on holistic health and wellness through natural wellness products and lifestyle changes with the overarching goal of reaching women for Jesus. She runs an online women’s ministry group called Roots & Fruits with over 3,300 women. View all posts by jenosullivan
Great message, Jen!! I was not a promise keeper when my kids were little because I always thought I was “too busy”!! Oh to be able to go back to those days again….
Christi Wilson
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