When your child ask you to play with them, cuddle them, or watch them and you are busy, say to them “For a minute” rather than “In a minute.” All they need is a moment of your time. You can stop what you are doing and enjoy them for 60 seconds. That is usually all they need, and then you can get back to your other tasks. Obviously there is quality and quantity of time that is necessary, but in general, when a child is asking you during a time that is not important (when you are on your phone browsing, on the computer, watching TV, etc) then you must show your child that they are more important than silly distractions. If you say “In a minute” and then 5 minutes go by or more, you have just shown your child that it is OK to lie. They understand at an early age what a minute is. When you pass the promised one minute, you are lying to them. They will internalize that and you are effectively setting your child up to become a lier, too! Be a promise keeper my friend! For a minute, not in a minute.
Kids Who Need Attention
Published by jenosullivan
Jen O’Sullivan believes that getting to the root of the problem is vital to full health and utilizes a whole-body system approach of care with her students and customers. She is one of the most followed educators in the aromatherapy world because she is known for her to-the-point style with helpful and logical explanations. She is the author of over 50 books, with nine being Amazon best-sellers. Jen is certified through the School for Aromatic Studies in French Medicinal Aromatherapy, holds a degree in Naturopathy from the UK Centre for Excellence, and is certified as a Master Trainer as a Vitality Lifestyle Coach. Jen has been a professional educator since 1999, at both the collegiate and high school levels. She has a desire to help educate anyone interested in holistic health and wellness through natural wellness products and lifestyle changes. View all posts by jenosullivan
One Reply to “Kids Who Need Attention”
Great message, Jen!! I was not a promise keeper when my kids were little because I always thought I was “too busy”!! Oh to be able to go back to those days again….