When I talk to other women about these subjects (see previous posts) we all agree that we all can do better in the areas of respect him more, helping him more, and honoring the bedroom. I hope this encourages you to bless your husband and respect him even if your mind is telling you he does not deserve it. The complications and intricacies of each of your marriages is not to be diminished, but I pray that considering these important items and hopefully implementing them, will bring a renewed spark in your marriage. Ultimately, it does not matter how you feel, or how your husband responds, but that we are doing what God asks of us. Being a blessing to God by glorifying him through obeying His commands, even through our marriage, is our most important mission.